March 20, 2019|11:44am
Rob Delaney is still coming to terms with the death of his 2-year-old son Henry, who succumbed to his battle with cancer last January.
“I’m a mess. My child died 14 months ago and I’m basically a bag of wet rubbish. I need a lot of help. It has been very hard. It comes in waves. I’ve learned to not control how the waves come. Right now I’m sad a lot,” the “Catastrophe” actor recently told the UK’s Standard.
Delaney, 42, who welcomed his fourth child with wife Leah over the summer, said he hoped his candidness would help others cope with their own losses.
“The reason I’m being honest with you and not trying to impress you, and make you think I’m cool or that I’m a tough guy, or maybe working through loss in an inspiring way, is that I have found that if a bereaved parent or bereaved sibling reads this, I want them to know that it’s okay that they feel terrible, sad, confused and so brutally humbled,” Delaney said.
“I’ve been sad and angry and I am telling you that just in case somebody else who has suffered a terrible loss reads this — so they don’t feel like some a–hole from TV has it all together. I am a lifetime work in progress,” the comedian continued.
Delaney’s son Henry had first been diagnosed with a brain tumor in 2016 and was hospitalized for 15 months.
“We were at Great Ormond Street Hospital [in London] for seven months, and then we were at our local hospital for seven months, and then we were home with Henry for seven months, and then he died. It would have been towards the end of our Great Ormond Street stay that we would have been hooked up with Rainbow Trust. The care worker assigned to us was a woman named Fiona who was just amazing, and remains so. She still comes and visits us sometimes,” Delaney said Monday at the Rainbow Trust’s Trust In Fashion fundraiser.
“At that point we didn’t know Henry was going to die. We knew he was disabled by his tumor and his surgery,” he continued, adding, “Fiona was like a paratrooper who just drops in and has the skill set to help people in unbelievable pain and fear.”
Despite the challenges Henry endured, Delaney said his young son never wavered in the face of adversity.
“His tumor and surgery left him with significant physical disabilities, but he quickly learned sign language and developed his own method of getting from A to B shuffling on his beautiful little bum. His drive to live and to love and to connect was profound,” Delaney wrote in a Facebook post in early 2018.